Recently, the social networking site TheFacebook.com got itself into some hot water with its own user base by launching an amazing new feature. This feature is the “feed” which comes up on your homepage and tells you about every little thing that was changed on your friends’ pages. In short, people are pissed because they don’t want the whole world knowing every time they change something on their page.
According to the founder, Mark Zuckerberg, people’s privacy has not been violated because the information that is available on a person’s feed is the same information they could have gotten by visiting each of their friends’ pages. It has always informed you when one of your friends updated their page, but it just never told you exactly what had changed. I think this is kind of funny because all those people who have hundreds of people listed as friends are now broadcasting their personal lives to all of those people… most of whom they hardly even know!
I personally dislike social networking sites because I feel they objectify people’s social lives in a way which makes me very uncomfortable. If I don’t have you on my friends list, does that mean we’re not friends? What if I do have you on my list but I’ve never even met you before? If you break up with someone, it’s not easy but you will likely remove them from your friends list. I personally got into hot water with some of my high school classmates who invited me to be their friends on Friendster. I had not seen them in years and I was never close friends with any of them, although I was cool with them. At the time I was rather paranoid and antisocial so I said “no”. One of them got very angry at me in real life when she got my rejection (I didn’t think it would be a big deal since she already had hundreds of friends on her list). I realized that I was foolish to take the site so seriously so I invited all of those classmates onto my friend list. Some of them were remorseful and agreed, although friend requests do not allow for any of your own words so I could not really apologize without hunting down their e-mail addresses.
This whole experience, however ridiculous, made me realize how nice it is that in real life, you cannot quantify a friendship. Friendster and TheFacebook take it even beyond quantifying it… they make it binary: you are a friend or you are not. To avoid any weirdness in the future, I accept ALL friend requests 